Dates to be announced.
WHAT YOU WILL LEARN
The Cause of Disconnection and Conflict
The Critical Importance of Safety and Practicing Zero Negativity
A 3-step Dialogue Process - A New Way of Talking and Listening
The Power of Empathy (and How to Get There)
How Conversations Change the Brain
A Plan for Repair & Sustaining Connection in Every Relationship
A TWO-PART SERIES
The webinar class consists of two 2.5 hr. sessions and will be facilitated by Nancy Bulow, Safe Conversations (SC) Certified Leader. The sessions on Zoom consist of educational presentations, live demonstrations, group sharing, practice in breakout rooms, and homework.
SESSION #1
Our Connecting Universe
The Human Journey; 3 Pillars of Safe Conversations - The Skill, the Idea and the Decision; The Still-face Experiment Video and Relational Patterns; The Brain & the Neuroscience of Relationships; From Monologue to Dialogue; The Space Between & Zero Negativity; Sentence Stems; Mirroring an Appreciation Dialogue Demo and Practice
SESSION #2
A Frustration is a Wish in Disguise
Our Defenses and Triggers; Understanding Frustration; Managing Frustrations Dialogue Demo and Practice; Relational Competency Growth Chart; SC as a Lifestyle
TO REGISTER, SEND AN EMAIL TO: NANCYBULOW@YAHOO.COM
JOIN WITH A FAMILY MEMBER
Singles and Siblings, Couples, Parents and their Adult children
$60 for one person, $99 for a couple, $120 for unlimited family members!
TO PAY
Once you register, you will receive an invoice. We accept checks, Venmo, PayPal, or Zelle. Partial scholarships available. If you have completed a SC class with Nancy before, join us for free! Bring a family member for $20.
PARTICIPANT MATERIALS
You will receive the necessary handouts for each session. These will need to be printed out ahead of time for use in the practice breakout rooms.
Facilitator: Nancy Bulow
Safe Conversations® Certified Leader
“We are born in relationship.
We grow in relationship.
We are wounded in relationship,
and are healed in relationship.”
- Helen La Kelly Hunt
The ART & SCIENCE of RELATIONSHIPS
The Art of Relationships is learning to tap into your intuition, wonder, and creativity. When you access this part of your brain, you become curious instead of critical. This intentional shift in perspective helps you to literally “see through the eyes of love.”
The Science of Relationships is to learn how the brain works in relationship. When the brain senses danger it will put up defenses and connection is impossible. Therefore, safety is a prerequisite for genuine connection.
The Safe Conversation’s relational methodology is designed to integrate all parts of the brain to create the necessary safety for connection between two people. Safe Conversations is a skill informed by neuroscience that is proven to work!
Our cherished desire is to be born in love, and to grow in love.
Yet, our experience in life is often not that ideal.
What Happened?
Our yearning for connection was frustrated by the fact that attunement with our caregivers in childhood was frequently ruptured and there was little to no repair. The result was loneliness and anxiety. When we are not connected to our caregivers as children, we create defenses and relationship patterns to protect ourselves in order to survive. In our adult lives we often revert to these relationship patterns. Yet, these prevent us from giving and receiving the love and care we need. The past continues to affect us in our adult lives.
The Need to Be Seen, Heard, and Understood
As children we need to be seen, heard, and understood by our caregivers. This is called attunement and creates a healthy bond and attachment. Yet, without an adult who knew how to be present to our needs the life-giving connection with them was often ruptured. When there was no consistent repair, we created a defensive posture to protect ourselves from the pain of the ensuing loneliness and fear.
What Can We Do?
A way to repair the tear in the fragile fabric of our relationships is to learn a way to talk and way to listen that creates presence. Presence means understanding, validation, and empathy. The energetic space between two people can be filled with toxins such as blame, shame and criticism. This causes disconnection. We have the choice to be intentional with our words and attitude in order to create the relationships of our dreams. It is possible.
The antidote to this relationship dilemma is to become a person who can be truly present and attuned. In a Safe Conversation you can experience giving and receiving the same presence and attunement that was missing in childhood. Safe Conversations teaches the tools to connect and is designed to prevent or to repair the relational ruptures that occur in our daily lives.
The Background:
Harville Hendrix, Ph.D. and Helen LaKelly Hunt, Ph.D., partners in life and work, are the co-founders of Imago Relationship Therapy, and most recently Safe Conversations®. They have written over 10 books, including three New York Times bestsellers, including Getting the Love You Want.
The “Space Between” is a concept key to SC. It is the energetic space that exists between two people and where the relationship lives.
The space can be filled with toxins like blame and criticism which poison our ability to connect with one another, or it can be filled with the energy of respect, trust, and mutual understanding.
The Space Between
Can’t you just sense the warmth, comfort, security, joy, and above all - SAFETY in this hug? We long for this reality as children and continue to thrive with this type of embrace throughout our adult lives.
We experience anxiety when there is a rupture in our connection with another person. We create defenses to protect ourselves from getting hurt. By creating safety in the Space Between these defenses diminish and oftentimes disappear. Then we can connect!
We don’t need to defend ourselves anymore when our brain perceives it is safe! When we validate and empathize with each other’s inner world, the relational space becomes rich with curiosity, compassion and affirmations. We connect in our heart and mind and spirit and then we can communicate!
Participant Materials - You will receive the necessary handouts for each session. These will need to be printed out ahead of time for use in the practice breakout rooms.
We welcome your questions or comments.
Write Nancy - nancybulow@yahoo.com