Beginning: May 4th at 11am EST
(Sessions twice a month May through July)
Even if the ultimate goal is to heal the family, we first need to discover ourselves and go through personal healing.
Learn to understand: “What have I inherited from my (extended) family growing up?” “What did (do) I bring into my marriage and parenting?”
Find ways to let go of guilt over unsuccessful relationships and learn how to heal past hurts.
In this group study session, participants receive written material before class, which are then elaborated on in a presentation accompanied by a short power point. Most of the 90-minutes will be used for live-coaching samples, Q&A and small online zoom breakout groups to practice exercises and make new connections with other participants. Coming away from this course, you will have gained deep personal insight into your ancestral inheritance, as well as insights on how to indemnify and heal unresolved issues for yourself, your family and beyond.
Cost: $100 a month for two 90-min sessions, partial scholarships available. Sessions will be recorded and sent to participants for review.
Sessions: May 4th and 18th, June 1st, 15th, 29th and July 13th
Details on our program:
1. Why do I need to know more about my family history?
We have inherited both good and not so good tendencies from the generations that came before us. These tendencies often create patterns in our lives that we are unaware of. Some serve us well, while others sabotage our path to health, love and success of different kinds. To prepare for this class, participants will be asked to answer a family history questionnaire which will give them enough background knowledge to draw their own genogram and identify unresolved ancestral issues. Exercises will be given as homework to be completed with another classmates in order to reach deeper understanding.
We will teach simple methods for self-healing in all sessions in this course. Methods like Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), The Walking Cure, The One Minute Solution, meditation/ hypnosis combined with memory healing, journaling and more.
2. Shifting from Surviving into Thriving
Our built-in survival mechanism may be helpful in a moment of danger, but does not serve us well if we are unaware of the coping mechanisms we create and become stuck in. During this course, participants will gain deeper insight into the idea of “living with masks” and the effects of unresolved issues on disfunction in our life or within our family system. We will discover more about the effects of trauma and how to discern if methods for self-healing can be used to resolve it or professional help is needed.
3. Why do children need to understand their parents’ childhood story?
It is important for children to understand their parents’ life story in order to help them shift from resentment and criticism to compassion and forgiveness. Each participant will write a short version of their own life story, share it with a spouse, friend or class mate outside of the class. This exercise will gives us a better understanding of the burdens and unresolved issues we bring to our marriages and parenting. Our children inherit our unresolved issues just as we have inherited things from our parents, grandparents and ancestors. Understanding our life story and the wounds that have been inflicted upon us will shed light on our past and help shift anger and other negative emotions on to a path of forgiveness and love.
4. and 5. Four Parenting Styles and Family Culture
Every parent is “overlooking moments” which could have moved their child into higher self-esteem and greater self-confidence. I am moving away from the idea that parents make mistakes, because it only stimulates more guilt and is of no use. All parents try their best, always! Therefore, let’s start the journey of forgiveness by identifying the belief systems that were imprinted on us from our family of origin before we try to stimulate change within our new family.
We will study the Four Parenting Styles and the different effects they have on the introverted and extraverted child, birth order influence, as well as family culture on roots, relationships, rules, routines, rituals and traditions, religiosity and revenue (how the family dealt with money).
6. Action Steps for a Personal Healing Journey and new Life and Love Skills
Based on discoveries made throughout this course, participants will learn to ask questions like: “What beliefs do I live with at the present time? What do I want to leave behind? What do I want to take with me? What do I want to change?
Participants will create a routine for healthy habits as well as discover new life giving action steps to create the life they want. For change to occur, participants must create new traditions with themselves, their families and the environment. It is suggested to choose an accountability partner, mentor or wise men and women to help continue these habits. Other suggestions include choosing new books to read, seminars to attend or adjusting things in relationships, spiritual life/ life of faith, living environment, career, finances and recreational activities.
"Satisfy the deepest yearning of the human heart."
New Course Starting SOON!
“We are born in relationship,
are wounded in relationship,
and can be healed in relationship.”
The program "Safe Conversations" (SC), created by Dr. Harville Hendrix and Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt, will be presented by Nancy Bulow, assisted by John Williams and Hilde Wiemann. You will experience a new way of talking and a new way of listening that can transform all your relationships. The learned outcome is, “to talk without criticism, listen without judgement, and connect beyond differences.”
About Harville & Helen
Harville Hendrix, Ph.D. and Helen LaKelly Hunt, Ph. D are partners in life and work. As the founders of Imago Relationship Therapy, and most recently Safe Conversations, they have written over 10 books, including three New York Times bestsellers. Harville has appeared as a featured guest 17 times on The Oprah Winfrey Show. Yet, even as relationship experts, their marriage almost didn’t survive. Learn their amazing story of hope in the video on the link below.
(Visit the website for three free e-book downloads)
“If you improve talking, i.e. talking without judgment so that you can connect, you actually satisfy the deepest yearning of the human heart.”
- Harville Hendrix
Four 2-hr. Zoom Sessions:
In four 2-hr sessions you will learn how to talk without criticism, listen without judgement, and connect beyond differences. The webinar consists of video lectures, group discussions, interactive practice sessions and homework. The SC relationship technology offers the promise that when you practice you will create interpersonal miracles.
Session 1: The Idea, The Skill, The Decision
Session 2: The Human Journey; The Brain; Early Life Challenges
Session 3: The Imago; Safe Conversations; Conscious Partnership
Session 4: Behavior Change Request; Caring Behaviors Dialogue
Session 5: Follow-up and Q&A (optional but recommended)
Format: Zoom Sessions include lecture, discussion and practice time.
If you have missed the January and February sessions, you can purchase the session recordings to study on your own. Then you can join the live March sessions with the group.
The Healing Journey 101
What are we healing from and how do we heal? In our view, the main components for healing are insight (intellect) and experience (emotion, spirit, heart) which motivates the desire (will) to change and grow. These three parts of ourselves work hand in hand. First, we gain an increased understanding into why we behave the way we do. Next, we make a choice to open ourselves to receive and experience the unconditional love and acceptance we did not receive as children.
"Love" is no longer a mysterious, scary or foreign "thing" as we tread gently on the path toward wholeness and well-being. We begin to crave the liberating experience of integrating the sometimes unexplored or stifled parts of ourselves into our conscious being and to move forward with hope and a longing for change and growth.
The order in the healing journey may not be so clear cut since the awakening may occur simultaneously in the heart, the intellect and the will. Either way, it is our intent to create the educational and experiential environment to stimulate this energetic processing by providing nurturing heavenly elements. You will then gain the confidence and expertise to pass it on to others.
In our coaching experience we find that the perfect companion to SC is Dr. Greg Baer’s teachings on Real Love (RL). The winning combination of RL and SC gives you the road map to create unconditionally loving and joyful relationships, which truly make the world go ‘round.
Mother’s Group: Importance of Inner Child Work
Two Wednesdays a month at 8 pm EST
This course is designed to be a support system for mothers at all stages of life. Learn the skills needed to take an honest look inside and determine what unresolved issues you are dealing with and how you can bring more peace, love and patience into your life. Hilde Wiemann has many years of experience with counseling families and individuals. She will facilitate meaningful discussions and help you to open up and share with a supportive and warm group of women.
Time: Wednesdays at 8 pm EST, every other week
Cost: $40 a session